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they like. Make sure that they would feel special and safe by
your side.
Communicate with them on their level.
Try kneeling or crouching down while making an eye con-
tact. Make sure that your eyes are on the same level with
your child’s. This would enable you to communicate more
easily. Try to address them as “son” or “daughter” rather
than other forms of address such as buddy or friend since
those might confuse them. Teach them and completely be
with themwhile playing games. Shut down and put aside
your mobile phone or tablet. Focus completely on your
activities with your children. With the games you play, teach
them sharing, working as a team and the joy of producing
together.
Allow them to make mistakes
Make them understand that what really matters is not the
result but the process itself, and taking action for a cer-
tain goal is important. Instead of criticizing them for their
mistakes, talk with them. Do not neglect appreciating their
efforts.
Do not lift them up when they fall down and do not under-
take the tasks they can do
Otherwise, they would think it is natural to expect
everything from others. They will develop self-confidence as
they achieve to complete their own tasks by themselves and
learn to stand up after falling down.
Assign them responsibilities
Assign them small responsibilities such as taking care of
their pets or flowers. When they fulfill their tasks, reward
themwith praising words. If they neglect the tasks, do not
criticize or display a negative attitude. Encourage them to
fulfill their responsibilities.
Support their artistic tendencies
Appreciate all the pictures they draw. Encourage them to
sing the songs they learn. Sing along with them. Watch them
while they are displaying their creative tendencies. Children
love to be watched by their parents while doing something.
Keep in mind that they copy your behaviors, not your words
Being consistent is the key rule of raising children. If your
words and actions do not cohere, you might lose their trust.
Your behaviors will guide them. Do not forget that you are
their greatest role model and they copy your every action.